Biyernes, Pebrero 21, 2014

Blogpost#7:Take me somewhere only we know

Self-Harm
Self-Harm
I used to self harm when I was being bullied back in high school and I thought it was the right thing to do, so I kept on doing it. I kept cutting myself until I knew that I needed to stop and I knew that I wasn't the only who was hurting, the people who cared for me also hurt. All this time I was continuing to cut, I thought I was doing the right thing to myself. When I was being made fun of, the only thing I turned to was self-harm, at first, I was thinking of taking my own life, but then I realised that I had other dreams that, of course, I want to reach. It could really save someone's life if you could do just the smallest action to a person who is actually suffering from self-harm. 

Now, according to Mary Elizabeth Dallas, writer of "Bullied Kids More Likely to Self-Harm as Teens" for the website called www.webmd.com she wrote on her article that children who are bullied in elementary school are almost five times for likely to engage in self-harm by the time they are teenager, according to a new study. Dieter Wolke, professor at the University of Warwick, said, "The importance of this early intervention should not be understated. If we were able to eliminate bullying, while other exposures remained constant, there would be a potential to prevent 20 percent of all self-harm cases." From the same article, the researchers examined information on nearly 5,000 children who participated in a study based at the University of Bristol. Children were evaluated to determine if they had been bullied between the ages of 7 and 10. Years later, when children were 16 or 17, they were asked if they had engaged in self-harm. 

Rick Nauret PHD, who wrote "Being Bullied Increases Likelihood of Self-Harm" for the www.psychcentral.com it says that UK researchers from the University of Warwick, in association with colleagues at the University of Bristol, discovered that being bullied at primary school age can cause enough distress to significantly increase the risk of self-harming in later adolescence. Self-harm behaviours may stem from a desire to relieve tension or communicate stress, and in the most extreme cases may represent a suicidal intent in the individual. The study found that 16.5 percent of 16-17 year olds had self-harmed in the previous year, and 27 percent of these did so because they felt as though they "wanted to die." Those who were subjected to chronic bullying over a number of years at primary school were nearly five times more likely to self-harm six to seven years later in adolescence. Rick Nauret interviewed Professor Dieter Wolke of the University of  Warwick and he said, "It is further evidence for doing away with the myth that bullying at a young age can be viewed as a harmless rite of passage. I'd like to see clinicians routinely asking children about bullying - from name calling to more physical acts of abuse. The importance of this early intervention should not be understated. If we were able to eliminate bullying, while other exposures remained constant, there would be a potential to prevent 20 percent of all self-harm cases." 


Dealing with self-harm myself made me think that it was the only thing that was right, it made feel better about myself. Somewhere inside me knew that it was such a bad idea, but at the time I was being bullied and was made fun of, when it came to the point that I was so depressed, I self-harmed. I wasn't doing the right thing but then it somehow made me happy that I had blade in my hand, cutting my skin. It honestly wasn't the best feeling in the world to have something cut your skin especially the reason why you're doing it, it's because of the things that you are going through at school. It doesn't happen in school it also happens at home, kids go through such a tough at home, I know someone who lost her parents at a young age, she is going through a time at home and at school, she self-harms just get the attention of her siblings.

Demi Lovato, she's my role model and when she opened up at her self-harm, eating disorders and her bullying experience, she got help, and I thought that I needed it as well, so I started going to therapy and the school's guidance office, it really helped a lot. There's an article I found called "Famous Self-Injurers", which the author wasn't mentioned, and Demi was also in the article, based on the article that on April 19,2011 Demi opened up in an ABC News interview. Her family was aware of her issues with the eating disorders from early on but unaware that she had, at age eleven, begun cutting her wrists as a way to cope with her feelings. And she told ABC News, "It was a way of expressing my own shame, of myself, on my own body. I was matching the inside to the outside. And there were some times where my emotions were just so built up, I didn't know what to do. The only way that I could get instant gratification was through an immediate release on my self. " Self-harm is one of the things I had to go through when I was bullied, it wasn't the easiest thing to go through because cutting  is one of the things that can help you calm down, it's like a stress reliever. I stopped after I realised that the only people who can help me with my problems are my friends.

There are so many issues about self-harm between girls and boys, but mostly it happens to the girls, when girls experience bullying and when their bullies make fun of them, say something about their looks or weight, the victim will just walk away, but at home they will g
et whatever they use to cut themselves.

Anna Stone, writer for The Telegraph and who wrote "Self-harm: why would she cut herself?"which is posted in www.telegraph.co.uk she wrote this article based on her experience because her 15 year old daughter used to cut, according to her the news that more than 22,000 children and teenagers were treated in hospital for self-harming last year. Anna said, "When we discovered our 15 year old daughter was cutting herself, it was a total shock. Her adolescence had, like that of many girls, been a period of increasing turbulence - but self-harming never crossed my mind until Sophie rang up from the other side of London saying that a cut in her foot was hurting too much for her to come home by Tube and could she have a taxi? Yes, of course, we said. When Sophie got home, she was clearly unwell and I asked to see the cut. After a moment's hesitation, she took off her shoes. It was immediately evident that the wound was serious. After visiting the hospital we were invited for family therapy" I remember the time my parents about my self-harming issue, I was conscious about my scars because I thought my parents would think I did because influence, but then I was able to open to why I did. I told them my story on why I cut myself and I don't just cut myself, I also starve myself, which, I know, isn't the right to do.

There is a writer named Michelle Dean, who wrote "The Story of Amanda Todd", which can be found in www.newyorker.com, it says that the 15 year old Amanda Todd from Port Coquitlam, British Columbia, decided to make last Wednesday the last day of her life, whether she expected that the act would turn into a household name. If she imagined her fame at all, she must have felt ambivalent at the prospect. In her short life, Todd had already learned that notoriety had a dark side. A certain kind of fame had already found her, and with it came a certain kind of life she plainly convinced herself that she couldn't escape. In Canada, where she lives, cyber-harassment is prosecuted under the general harassment provision of the Canadian criminal code. Whatever Amanda Todd might have been thinking, whatever else might be true, she did get one thing out of this: Amanda Todd did manage to, just once, tell her own story. She got to drown out the version of her that strangers had put out on the Web. It's a small comfort. But it was perhaps the only one she had left. A Gawker reporter named Adrien Chen said, "I identified a man named Michael Brutsch as one of the moderators of certain venal sub-threads on the 'social news' Web site Reddit. Some were dedicated to 'creepshots' & 'jailbait.' They functioned chiefly as vehicles for the delivery of pictures of young women, many of whom did not consent to either the taking of the photograph or this particular mode of dissemination" And I feel sorry for Amanda, I tried imagining myself in her shoes, I, of course, would feel very

Emma Innes, writer of "Soaring numbers of teenage girls are self-harming due to 'unprecedented toxic climate' they are growing up in.", the article can be found from the website called www.dailymail.co.uk, and according to Emma, in the last 12 months to June, there were 13,400 cases of self-harm among girls aged 15 to 19 that required hospital treatment - up to 12,220 in the previous year. The England-wide data, from the Health and Social Care Information Centre (HSCIC), also shows 4,000 cases of self-harm among 15 to 19 year old boys. The figures also showed boys were fare more likely to need treatment for assault than girls -- with 3,500 cases among 15 to 19 year olds during the same period -- down 24 percent from the 4,580 cases the previous year. Lucie Russell, Director of Campaigns and Policy at the charity Young Minds was mentioned in the article and she said that "Everyday we hear about the unprecedented toxic climate children and young people face in a 24/7 online culture where they can never switch off. Cyber-bullying and 'sexting', bleak employment prospects and a society obsessed with body image are creating a negative environment around children and young people. These findings must not be dismissed as simply an inevitable part of growing up." 

Charlie's Angels actress Drew Barrymore opened about her struggle with self-harm, it was that she used a butcher knife to cut her wrists and she said, "I know I'm not ugly but I don't think I'm a pretty girl. I'm very critical of myself, definitely. There's one thing about that I truly, truly hate. I hate my arms! I have really fat arms. And I self-harm myself for it." I don't do what Drew Barrymore does to her arms, I only do it when I suffer from the bullying that I get, but I do get her point, when m

y parents aren't around I remember what I had to go through that certain day, get the cutter and cut myself.

There are times where people self-harm because they want to fit in, but one of the reasons why  girls and boys cut it's because of the pain that they are going through. When I self-harmed, there was this girl who meant a lot to me and when she found out I liked her, she started to bully me but the worst thing about it is that her friends helped her with bullying me. Being the victim is obviously tough and it came to the point when I wanted to cut myself with a knife, I usually use a cutter, but I was so depressed, I didn't want to go to school anymore I wanted to use a knife. I learned my lesson, and I knew that it wasn't worth it, the pain I went through made into a better person.

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